I consider myself a work at home
Mom. Some people might say the lack of an outside job should give an author
more time to write, not less, but they don’t live in the same chaotic
environment as I do. I’m sure other writer mamas out there can relate. Job or
no job, when you have kids your work day never
ends. It isn’t easy juggling parenthood and trying to jumpstart a writing
career at the same time.
The online writing community is vast
and I take advantage of many of the wonderfully supportive groups and
opportunities available to me, but they deal mostly with the business side of
things. This blog is about the creative process itself. I have so many stories
begging to be written, but things don’t fall into place if my muse isn’t
willing.
When
I say my muse I mean the source of my inspiration, but I often think in terms
of a real person, the way a child would with an imaginary friend. She’s as high
maintenance as any of my children, demanding her share of my time just like
they do and when she gets ticked off I get a wicked case of writer’s block.
When
I’m blocked I do all the usual things to jumpstart my brain. I switch projects
so I can go back later with a fresh perspective. I listen to music, watch
movies or read books in the genre I’m trying to write. Anything to get that
spark back. We’ve all been there. The writing is so much better when it flows
on its own, when the words aren’t forced.
I’m
most inspired most by thunderstorms. The sound of thunder and pouring rain
accompanied by those flashes of lightning make me feel exhilarated like Dr.
Frankenstein about to give life to his creation. I sit down at my computer and
I don’t stop writing until I’m totally spent. Unfortunately, I can’t whip up a
storm every time I get stuck on a plot point.
So
what other option is out there for our weary creative souls? I have so many
friends who get writer’s block and stop writing altogether. They say they’ll
write again and some of them do, but some don’t. I’ve been there myself and had
to think outside the box to remedy the problem.
I
left the kids with their dad for the weekend, bought a pizza for the road and
rented a hotel room. It wasn’t anything fancy, but it had everything I needed,
specifically a wireless internet connection for my laptop. A little undivided
attention for my muse and I accomplished more in one night than I had in the
entire month before.
I’ve
been back a couple times since then when I really needed to reconnect and I’m
looking forward to going again soon. Sometimes the best cure is simply a little
me time. Find someone to babysit.
Take a vacation day from work. Blow off the cooking and the chores. Do what
readers do every time they pick up a book and take a small escape from your life.
Commune with your muse. I promise you won’t regret it.
BIO:
Billi Wagner, formerly Billi Pethtel, wanted to grow
up and be a published author since she penned her first short story in second
grade. A husband and six kids later, that dream hasn’t changed. Her first
romantic mystery/comedy novel ‘Painted Jezebel’ is published under the pen name
Jolie Pethtel to keep the genre separate from the paranormal projects she is
currently writing under her legal name.
1 comment:
Thanks for the great post. I'm the mom of a toddler and I work which means the time I can sit down and write is limited and I do not have time for writer's block. My favorite muse is musical. I listen to a favorite playlist that helps me channel the mood I'm trying to achieve.
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